This article couldn't have been more timely. As I'm managing more and more of my mom's care, I lean toward the "extreme preparedness" side of things but that's not good for my health (nor our relationship). My therapist yesterday asked me to rank the various issues according to priority, and only deal with those that were truly pressing. It's a little like having a first child, she said. Some people tend to over-do the care. I wouldn't know that but I can relate.
Oh Sarah! I know those exact feelings. When I was caring for my mom I often had that same mentality. I was constantly trying to be “one step” ahead of her literally and figuratively. Partly because I knew anything that went wrong also would add to my caretaking load too. It’s a vicious cycle. Sending you love.
This article couldn't have been more timely. As I'm managing more and more of my mom's care, I lean toward the "extreme preparedness" side of things but that's not good for my health (nor our relationship). My therapist yesterday asked me to rank the various issues according to priority, and only deal with those that were truly pressing. It's a little like having a first child, she said. Some people tend to over-do the care. I wouldn't know that but I can relate.
Oh Sarah! I know those exact feelings. When I was caring for my mom I often had that same mentality. I was constantly trying to be “one step” ahead of her literally and figuratively. Partly because I knew anything that went wrong also would add to my caretaking load too. It’s a vicious cycle. Sending you love.